KEEPING THE SPARK IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

In the whirlwind of life, maintaining that special spark in your relationships can sometimes feel like a challenge. After 28 years of marriage, which have come with many ups and downs, my husband and I are still passionately in love with each other. In this blog, we'll explore some practical ways to cultivate and sustain the spark in your long term relationships too.

Breaking the Chains of Habit:

It's easy to get caught up in the busyness of daily life, from work to parenting and other various responsibilities. With so much going on around you, it can feel like a challenge to prioritize each other when you have such a long to-do list. It's crucial to break free from that monotony. Amidst the chaos, I've found that intentionally giving my relationship with my husband the attention it deserves makes all the difference.

Your Two Most Important Relationships:

Now, in order to keep a romantic relationship alive, you must take care of another vital relationship as well. That’s the relationship you have with yourself. Prioritizing mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual self-care gives you the opportunity to show up as your best self for your partner, or anyone else for that matter. When you feel fulfilled and balanced internally, you are much better equipped to contribute positively in your relationships. Give yourself the love you deserve and watch how it multiplies!

Initiating the Spark:

Gone are the days of waiting for the other person to make the first move. I've come to realize that keeping the spark alive is a joint effort. Initiating gestures of affection like a kiss or a hug or a loving touch, expressing desires openly, and breaking out of old habits has become crucial in my relationship. By being present and mindful, you can create positive patterns that contribute to a thriving connection.

More Than Just Physical Intimacy:

Now, we all know that connection goes beyond just hugs, kisses, and physical affection. I've discovered the beauty of emotional and mental intimacy—sharing laughs, cracking jokes, and expressing gratitude. It's like adding different colors to our relationship palette, creating a more vibrant and dynamic connection. By verbalizing appreciation and speaking from the heart, you foster a deeper connection that transcends routine.

Cycles of Love:

It’s important to recognize that relationships go through cycles and they take continuous effort. Love is like a plant that needs regular care—watering, trimming, fertilizing, and removing the “dirt.” Relationships require ongoing attention and effort to truly flourish over the years.

Navigating Challenges:

No matter what you do, moments of disagreement and frustration are inevitable. It’s crucial that we acknowledge our mistakes, apologize, and seek resolution regularly. Even when it's difficult, and sometimes very difficult, these actions contribute to the resilience and closeness of the relationship and help deepen your bond even further.

Through working on the relationship I have with my husband over the last 28 years, I've come to see the wisdom in these tools. Breaking habits, prioritizing self-care, taking the lead, navigating challenges with love—these are the keys that have helped my husband and I keep the spark alive. Here’s hoping you adopt even just one of these ideas in your long term relationships. I promise it will make a big difference. Cheers to the beautiful journey of love and the joy it brings!